Christmas 2019 came and went quite quickly. Yes, it was partly due to a Hawaiian getaway earlier in the month, but a larger part of it is that divorce performed somewhat of a Christmas-ectomy on me. Ironically, my life is even more joyful since then, but it isn’t...

Wow.

I just revisited my Mission Statement and Vision Statement from way back when I started RillPOWER.

Mission Statement:

To inspire disheartened women to love themselves unconditionally by realizing that they ARE love and are deserving of vibrant health, beautiful surro...

What if you could go back in time?

     Last week, I had a chance to visit a place I hadn’t been since 1982, my great-grandmother’s house in Nogales. Arizona. Barely.

     I say barely, because the house was built before the fence, before the wall, before the b...

     So, I found out today that my last name is not only a noun, it is also a verb. What does it mean "to rill"? It means to flow like water. Naturally, the writer in me flowed out... 

     According to physics water chooses not the path of least resistan...

     If you’re in the midst of a divorce, you might be faced with moving, or perhaps you just realize that you are despairing under a mountain of memories and are looking for some relief.

     The KonMari Method for decluttering your life is simple: Keep only...

     You know what’s a far better marker of time than a clock or a calendar? That’s right, an address book. Mine is a thirty year old desk size Day-Timer from the late 80s. I loved it, it had pockets, and a bunch of great customizable features like a one day per page c...

     According to Jenna Bush Hager, George H.W. Bush believed that “No life can be defined as successful that does not include service to others.” He communicated that belief beautifully in a 1988 campaign speech written by Peggy Noonan in which he pledged to, “…keep A...

Have you let go of a dear holiday tradition after divorce? 

     Not really a blog post, just a little holiday story. What holiday tradition is dearest to your heart? For me, that is an easy one.

     Creating home is important to me. My first words were “home...

     I admit it, I’m hopelessly sentimental. One reason that I tried to avoid divorce through all the years of X bringing it up was to preserve the place for our memories to matter. Even now, I’m like the knight in Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade- spending 700 years...

  Whether you can't be bothered to deck the halls or you're a junior Martha Stewart like I am, going through a divorce around the holidays is not as easy as (pumpkin) pie.  Here is an updated version of last year’s holiday blog post. Please join in the “Happy (As Can B...